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by Joe B.
Over the years I’ve written good and not so good things.
Stuff like telling straight guys to look a lesbian porn for better ways of pleasing women.
That was wrong in that erotica not porn is best.
Let’s face women are naturally better at this but does not rule out improvement of "S" men’s learning curve.
The Bio logical cheat term is harsh and wrong even if I’m miffed at the built-in bias, same sex or other orientation has gives me no right in using the term, some things just are what they are.
As for Unattainable Men/Women argument it was false on it face because most Women/Men will go for that near impossible goal and women certainly won’t.
Difficult yes, problematic certainly, but gay men who are accessible is delicious to them I guess because its like picking forbidden fruit.
Straight becoming unattainable is not a game straight men should play but less chasing and more balance of themselves seems to be the way.
An odd thing happens when straight men begin taking better physical care of themselves, relax, and concentrate on interests other than women, not constantly having ‘em objectified or underfoot but doing their own thing for them alone.
Women seem to appear, want to know them, and these former underfoot males are more interesting exactly because they have broader interests and no longer look for women or their men friends for approval; sometimes being sexy is a byproduct of being open and aware.
It is then straight males are under a feminine gaze and blissfully unaware of their power.
I’ve been thinking of traveling across America and then the world freeing my mind of assumptions, past errors, and regrets then returning to the States from my travels older, wiser, less worries and then or if I already have finally settle down with a loved one.
All these other sexual orientations confused me like lesbians who did straight men and gay men with straight women, Trans gender folks and
hermaphrodite humanity.
It struck me: with all their exotic orientation making straight men and women dull, stale, and redundant.
The O/S/O [other sexual orientations].
All the hoopla and "We Are Who We Are Get Use To It" is not to stay other worldly but to enter parts if not all of the mainstream and be just folks as straight people are already.
Its not that being straight is dull as its we can live our ordinary lives without few constant threats to them.
All the O/S/O’s really want is to do is live regular lives as straight people have without getting pounced on, beat up, or killed for simply not being what other or the majority folks are.
The everybody’s BI, or other sexed among their straight lives. The OS’ s being ambiguous, not quite truthful, or little white lies to tell people thing so as not to hurt feelings works fine up to a point.
That may be the main difference straight people try being real and actually say what their orientation is but for O S’s when they do this irrational violence and anger begins so being ambiguous is a weapon of survival when being different literally can mean ones death.
Me, with my flawed lazy left eye cannot hide from taunts of either men or women and its women who’ve wounded me most but balanced through the years have bolstered my self esteem so that others of their sister’s still in the [he’s ugly, ignore him or laugh in his face].
They’ll always be young or older women who are surface not looking deeper than physical face value.
Those are the thousand negative slights, no, hell no folks that I never count but the one or two yes’s they are the worth all the past pains.
Women want balance that is for men to cry, show joy, ask questions, express emotions, be strong, weak, and be able to lean and be leaned on.
The problem is always balancing all the above. You see women themselves may know these balances but don’t tell, don’t know, or may unconsciously want to keep men off balance so they always seem right.
Its hard for women to admit that for all men’s faults they have virtues too and are as nurturing as mothers.
The "Your just a sperm donor, we really don’t need you anymore." Is psychic anger that feels fine and right when said but in truth won’t work in reality. Women are no more complex as men are and both contribute child birth.
Women carry embryo’s to term and with that power believe they are stronger, emotionally more stable, more sensitive, and bond with the child more in their early lives.
Another false assumption men too are every bit as important to childbirth and raising of children and if a mother is not with her child and the father is guess who the child bonds with?
No matter that women physically nourish and carry children to term if they are with their child and any male is and it is they doing the changing of diapers, cooing, snuggling, washing, and up all hours of day or night caring for the infant that male becomes the primary caregiver and the child will respond to him more than rare visiting mother.
Men, Women remain mysteries to each, each are equally unique aside from more nerve endings for enhanced pleasure in women what men don’t feel they don’t miss.
Hence some women purposely bring up that pleasure principle in men’s faces what men do is work with what they have until science and technology can someday increase what they lack now.
Men, Fem.’s, and O/S/O’s what do you all think?"
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