by Joe B.
Rules ‘n’ Other Junk Pt. 1
I remember fanfare about a book called "The Rules" by Ellen Fein, Sherrie Schneider.
One of ‘em had a divorce placing a pall on it.
I haven’t read it yet now there’s a sequel Rules 2
which is an update.
Its like the "men are generic comment on some late night radio show.
Only problem is men don’t all look, act, feel, the same, they are not all alike.
Just because we have basic equipment doesn’t make us generic, there are variations of form and function in height, weight, physical, and psychological makeup.
Think of our brains and bodies; the size does matter or doesn’t range of individual preferences by women is damning proof and blows away this theory.
I think guys have their book of rules for women too for compiling and comparisons.
I was thinking of my own book of rules entitled "Women. Mysteries And Enigmas, or If They Don’t Understand Themselves How Are Men Supposed To?
Some people will call thisTransubstantiation
Explained by Dr. Wade Nobles, a tenured Professor in Black Studies at San Francisco State University, an author of many books on African psychology…
Dr. Nobles said "Its looking at surface behaviors of a people, you can draw conclusions about meaning and value of behaviors, but the meaning and the value comes from deep structure of a people’s culture and values.
I’m saying men are looked at by women as a group at similar surface levels and don’t to see our deep structures.
Just as women won’t stand to be seen as the same screech to high heaven that they are unique individuals with talents, feeling, and will be taken seriously.
Guys, you know I’m right and women if they’re honest know it too seeing us generic and not all that while saying of themselves that they are all that and more is Transubstantiation or a Transubstansive Error. (Hope its spelled correctly)
Women have said about men, that men have said about women.
That’s why I always say both sexes are equally unique, weather one doesn’t think they need the other both our abilities are needed.
Until men and women evolve to perfection or artificial intelligent males and females are created for those who’ve written off both flesh and blood sexes the original model will have to continue for now.
I am telling the absolute truth, men are going through all kinds of private purgatory if not hell because women say one thing then do another.
We know how their hearts have been bent, broken, emotionally torn asunder and physically too.
Men have recently been told its alright to cry, let feelings show however there’s a balance of appropriateness women know of that few of the men didn’t so when we over do the touchy feelings the wimp word comes to mind.
Men not wanting to be set up again go into their shells and are called unfeeling brutes.
I think women like/want men to always be in a box to be slammed, blamed, derided, and ridiculed.
Its so easy to bash someone who knows what they’ve done, are doing better, most of us take the abuse as they slowly improve but it’s invisible to many if not most women’s radar.
Because women have and are still being hurt treated rotten that few believe men can change and don’t, cannot, or won’t see it when its in front of them.
Women learn faster, verbalize, earlier, are able to emote and turn into puddles and its all good.
A guy doing the same thing gets beaten up labeled a ‘homo, fairy, and if he is heterosexual.
Both kinds of males because of real or percived Homophic hysteria can be killed as warning or threat to others.
To stay in their closets and not expand alternative deffitions of what being a man, male, or men can mean.
He might get just an extra beat down or verbal bashing by young girls, women.
Yet, he’s the very guy they should seek out to date.
Between a gentle straight male or gay man both society brands both odd ducks.
Gay men have a vibrant, thriving not so hidden subculture and like women have support groups to fall back on.
Straight men are still straight jacketed into so called cultural correct behavior difficult if not impossible to break away from.
Even though young girls, women zoom past males early in life intellectually its not all cut and dry.
A sad reality is young girls aren’t really smart when dating tough, rough, acting types.
It takes time for them to find a guy who treats them decent, honor, cherish them when they do find this diamond among glass.
because they’ve been so wretchedly mistreated by bad boy-men types that when women find this near mythical decent guy it is he who is rejected because they’re use to bad treatment not less rough pampering.
I get a distinct feeling that if men ever did simply drop the macho posing attitude, be their true vulnerable selves most women would be confused or run the other way because they’d have nothing to be angry about.
Indeed they would be angry that men have become the very image of what they themselves believed to be and that’s Strong, independent, loving, nurturing, emotional, and spiritual.
Every attribute is not male or female either sex can claim them women have just been louder in their verbal claim of the mantle.
End of Part 1.
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