So you proved to her your a safe, Your in her heart,soul and she's in yours. GET OUT OF LIMBO,DATE OTHER WOMEN! Its not cheating,its sex with women seeing Then tell your platonic perfect other all about it.
no-sex hetero guy.
you as more than a friend,have fun.
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by Joe B. Platonic Overkill Most relationships with women for me has been as a third wheel when they get a new guy friend I’m told immediately. From their first giddy giggle,worry about being called,or suspicion of being two timed I’m the one being turned to I found out later I have become straight guy/girlfriend sending out G-energy each time I’m there to listen, talk,or for a safe non sex sleep over. Women have the best of both world’s a guy who isn’t gay yet will go shopping,tell her she truly,beautiful and know because they've bonded sex with him is non existent if not impossible. My last one really had me going through fascination,lust,pals,to deep friendship,and of course relationship brake ups. For some insane reason I stop taking her side,took the guys side of the points and really damaged our relationship I thought for good. I metaphorically dug my claws into her emotional side and the way she treated past,current, and ex boyfriends. I believe part of it was unconscious pushing, tarring,at the fabric, micro rips of the seams of our bonds. Knowing parts of her past,she knowing bits of mine we didn’t talk to each other until I realized its way too late for me to be seen as lover and friend only "highly prized friend." I don’t apologize well and don’t like doing other people’s dishes or sleep over with no sex but the woman has at times help me see as women do,been kind, even motherly when I was ill forcing me to get something eat paying for the meal. She has also shown me her naked soul at its most raw and vulnerable. I no longer fought the truth:we may be life long friends but never lovers. I’ll never be seen as an object of affection as she was to me. At work,doing little but net surfing thinking about my wayward friends traipsing across the continent,country,to other cities meeting,turning down men,while keeping touch with me in different time zones I’m actually glad she’s free of everyone including me. Men can be (poison pills)at times. On the net was a site called love sift,love sucks,or something and some of it was about platonic love with all kinds of funny to sad horror stories about men and women in this pure love sexless realm and from them I have solution. I know there must have been real lust,love,and longing for my friend for me to feel such anger, pain,and frustration. The site or one of the online writers’s says "Get more platonic girlfriends. Another suggestion is after dating lots of women, find one,settle down,get married,but before you do call all your fem friends and be really enthused about it. Tell them about dating and how you finally found the right girl that you still value their friendship. Of course you must invite them to the wedding. You’ll won’t know for awhile after you put the phone down that all your P-Women friends will be calling each other talking about you "The good friend that got away" because all of them wanted to keep it platonic,safe, without sex messing up their friendship. I thought about it but in my case it won’t matter much my lady friend is a savvy,sexy,sensual, sensitive,politically aware,strikingly pretty young woman with beau’s current,and ex’s panting over her. Though I will always be her No. 1 fan,trusted friend,confidant,father confessor,spiritually we both have each other’s back we’re just not physically entwined. One terrifying fact I found out speaking of sex’s physical aspect is that some younger women cannot stand more that 30 or 45 minutes of love making (excluding foreplay). While I’ve been taught by women f-play ‘n stay until they’re done even they’re on the phone to stay in ‘uh with her. Maybe she and I are physically incompatible if not size then length of physical exercise but she and I will never know. Besides for me with age comes wisdom she might be to much for me or I her its all moot now. She is a really good friend throwing sex in the mix could ruin it. I do understand,gain a lover loses a friend. My best option is having lots more fem friends so many that a few will be tempted to break it. You know the old saying a woman is never satisfied. I say give her what she wants while finding other women who want to be bedded daily and often,let fem friends fume,and they won’t be able to argue because its their rules. When you end up taking out if not dating more fem friends than new women pretty soon they’ll break their own rules if not there are lots of women who’ll take you off their sister’s hands for a while. It’s a win-win scenario, your just being a good guy with lots of female friends. That’s my plan ‘cause my fem friend doesn’t see me sexually as I do her so its time to embrace reality,let the painful fantasy go. I don’t want to dream about her anymore.(Ok, sometimes) but its rare these days. Please send contributions
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