Yes,Males,and Females can be A warning to those pondering it... Be aware of what you ask,but if broken
platonic close friends.
place blame on your own desire first and foremost
before anyone else.
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by Joe B. Low Carbs & Women Friends Years before the low Carbohydrate trend my mother began to eat hamburgers,chicken,tuna and other sandwiches minus the bread. Most café’s, restaurants,and fast food people dread her coming but complied because few people asked or demanded no bread. Now it seems to have caught on for when I asked for a low carb burger and chicken sandwich my surprise it’s without bread and is replaced with lettuce covering the meat or poultry with most of the condiments in between. At first I’m thinking "What Happened to My Bread?" before realizing bread is a starch and mom’s been eating this way for years. It takes time getting use to though it’s a healthier way of eating. Speaking of healthy life style changes platonic relationships between men and women for me as a man is tricky for once we’re able to be ourselves minus the sex its easier to communicate. My problem as with most guys is when being a true friend with a woman or women as we go through our lives to be careful when women ask questions of a personal nature. It may not be about themselves and their relationships that’s touchy,dangerous territory because if you care more than its appropriate than a friendship you may cause more problems than solve. Another thing, women don’t want you to come up with solutions,answers,or way to deal with their problems. They just want you to listen; even if you know the answer you keep your own council until she really wants to hear it. Even then she may not be psychologically ready. Someone to talk,walk, tell secrets to knowing you will not betray that trust. A platonic relationship is most difficult when your friend is in emotional turmoil especially before, during,and after break–ups it’s a precarious for two straight platonic friends either for the guy or woman to comfort each other. That is,its alright to show you care,be strong for the other but never take advantage of the other’s vulnerable state. In a few I’ve had to brake contact because it became to physical and a few time when too weak I admit my need plus another’s passion fueled a broken platonic relationship. Though afterwards we remained friends our consummation beyond platonic friendship made us wary of ever being alone with each other. Glad I learned this lesson long before moving to San Francisco. Anyway, having a few platonic fem friends to other men and some women always seems gayish. For women with either guys or gal pals no stigma’s attaches I guess because society is use to women being friends with males or females while guys are so called hard wired to get women in bed before thinking them friends. My idea is make as many platonic girlfriends as possible. Think nothing of it as you go on with your life. Sometime,it may or may not take years but sooner than not one or more of your female friends will either think you of as gay. [let her go,you’ve nothing to prove trying to prove otherwise weirdly proves her case against you true or not] Your fem friends will discuss you in secret to each other and outside of your group. Ever so subtly some will try easing out of the land of Platonia and into the Bad Lands of more-than- friend. Face it guys,women as good P-friends works when one has lots of female friends who will find each other and talk about qualities that drew them to you. Each will actively try do deliberately destroy their platonic relationship and as you blame yourself for being a weak,evil, sleaze ball of man. Your sweat,nice feminine friends(at least some) will take turns having you. Whoever gets you too the hallowed halls of matrimony has won out over her friends. Pregnancy by eyedropper, test tube,or cloning doesn’t count though it’s called a family; you have next to the original. [the original is extended families] So,guys with too many platonic women don’t worry they only want proof that sexless friendship with men minus being gay is possible and afterwards you’re a hunted male endangered species (a good man) Me,I have to buildup girlfriends,show I’m a great platonic straight man without his horn aimed at them. Know they can trust me when they’re alone at their most fragile emotive states. It raises my self-esteem showing there is character and grace within. My fuzzy math says out of 20 or more women a few are lesbian,BI sexual, asexual,and the rest regular straight women in or out of relationships but still wanting a male to hang with. I figure out of the 20 or more females (bringing their friends to enlarge the network) at least 5 or 9 will begin rethinking their bargain – it’s a woman’s prerogative to change their minds. I know this much about the ladies once they have something the way they absolutely want it or not they’ll want to change their minds because they can. Their own libertarian standards will force ‘em to make a good straight guy who isn’t chasing,asking, begging,or trying seduction methods,who is not after them in anyway. Wonder about him, himself they will in small ways tempt him and if he does not fall he’s labeled gay,odd,or strange. If he falls under her spell he’s her tracked down trophy. What do you think of platonic relationships? Have you,either men/ women or other orientations in between been in a platonic relation and you or your friend broke it? Poor Magazine
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